We have discovered the obvious---at least in one corner of the FamLea. Everyone is passionate and has an opinion. The less obvious is that not everyone is alway open to share their opinions or to respond to others' opinions. This is self preservation on all levels and is more appreciated after having realized everyone's thinking preference and the collective dynamics of the famLea during our Emergenetics experience yesterday.
The strengths from the Emergenetics and our famLea that I see is people prefer building relationships but we speak different languages in trying to accomplish this task. Sometimes the history, emotions, and individual battles make moving on difficult. Life is not easy, but it's worth the hard work.
Don't lose site of the goal when enthralled with the life battles. It's like the farmer plowing his field, he has to constantly look up and go to a spot that is a distance target in order to have effective and efficient rows in his field. Life is hard, and growth is part of that process.
With the distribution of thinking preferences...it is likely everyone won't agree with everyone all the time. That's normal and ok. But allowing others to be themselves---understanding but not agreeing---is part of the self-growth. My dad would recite the Serenity Prayer including a phrase he emphasized something about--change the things you can and let go of the things you can't change. You have heard me say that you can't change other people. But you can change yourself, which will have effect on how other people respond to you. Life is tough, and it's easier to want others to change...rather than change ourselves.
I believe what I took away from our trainings was 1) to remember to "ask" (be transparent) rather than try to fix or tell others how to fix things, and 2) practice reflective listening! Tall exercise for me, but I'm committed!
Mine & Dad's famLea target across the field is the Tree of Life that Lehi dreamed about! Hold fast to the rod so we can all eat the fruit together! Fight on (work hard) because the goal is worth the pain of self-growth in the process! How does that clever saying go? Something about being on earth is what we are here after is the here-after!
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Thanks mom for putting on a great night!!! It was really neat to learn how our brain thinks and how we behave accordingly. I really enjoyed learning about Garth and how we compliment each other and make a WHOLE brain together! Thanks for being a shining example and "listening" so well!!!! I want to be JUST LIKE YOU! (oh Wait - I AM!)
Thanks for the great. It was amazingly informative.
I think you are all a bunch of nut jobs, just like me. I am glad to be a part of this family, and grateful for the stretching and growing opportunities I have because of each member. I would not have it any other way! Thanks again mom for organizing and sponsering this event. Thanks to everyone who participated for all your contributions. I learned more because of the various perspectives.
Well now that it is official and we all know that we are all nuts (according to Eric). It would seem that the nuts are not falling far from the tree. I would be interested to find out what the results were for Shauna and me. Hope you all had a great time and learned a lot!!!
Jimmy Lea
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